I managed to get out going to see my parents for Mother's Day because "the weekend is just too short to drive all that way" but I couldn't escape a make up visit over the long Memorial Day weekend. So after I scrapped myself off the floor at midnight on Friday after a party with some of the girls, I managed to get up early on Saturday and drive myself 4 hours to my mom and dad's house.
Oh what fun it was! (Not really.) I love my family but they just don't get how complex and toll taking infertility is. A couple of examples to demonstrate. . .
Example 1: Mom's apart of a club that is preparing for a big yard sale next weekend. One of her friends called to tell mom that she had some baby stuff that she used at her house when her grandchildren came to visit. The friend went on about how she loaned it out to all of her friends and everyone just thought it was great. Did Mom want her to put the stuff in the yard sale or did she want her to hang on to it to loan/give it to Mom when her grandchildren came to visit? I was mentally voting to put the crap in the yard sale. But my Mom told her friend, "just hang on to it. I will probably be needing that pretty soon." Thanks Mom. No pressure, right?
Example 2: Conversation with my grandmother. . .
GM: Did you get a chance to visit with your high school best friend?
Me: No, I think she is at the lake this weekend. I couldn't get a hold of her.
GM: What did she name her baby?
Me: Hum, her daughter is going into first grade next year. She is not really a baby anymore.
GM: That is right, she had her children a while ago. But what is her daughter's name?
Me starting to grit my teeth: Shyanne is her name.
GM: That is an odd name. (Pauses for a min.) What are you going to name your children?
Me: C & A.
GM: C & A? But those are your dogs names! You can't name your children after your dogs!
Me: No GM, my dogs are my children.
GM: Well dogs aren't children. Have some babies and you will know that. When are you going to have some babies?
Me: grinding my teeth, trying to smile mysteriously.
GM: Well, I guess it is just a matter of time.
Seriously it was all I could do not to jump on her couch T.om Cr.uise style, yelling about blocked Fallopian tubes, the cost of IVF and medical science.
I believe that I shattered a few teeth keeping my mouth closed during the long weekend. Sigh.